Men never give up their drive to find a beautiful Woman. Women give up their drive to find a beautiful Man, when they realize they’ve gotten or getting old in order to find a more giving male who has become such way from having to compensate for the fact that he wasn’t beautiful his whole life. It also doesn’t help that Men age better than Women which I agree by default of Nature, is not fair.
When you hear someone ever say “Looks don’t matter”, well, they are either lying to you because they are not capable of partnering with such looking being or they are very truthful. For them, the looks really don’t matter and what is inside the pockets does.
What about the inside of a person? Please. You don’t get to see anyone’s inside until a good while enough where you have to base your initial decision on either looks or social status. If the inside is great well -you keep that one.
Well, for what it’s worth, supposedly the French had a saying that no woman is truly beautiful without also being truly ugly.
Now, in my case, I suppose at times I can be beautiful. I’ve seen glimpses of it. I’ve been told that I am. However, I’m not very photogenic.
I will admit that I go for looks in my men, but the men I’ve ended up with haven’t always been good looking, and I still would like to meet a financially independent one. Ha ha.
Well, the way I see it the French are correct. No one looks pretty while taking a shit for example
This one seems a little more rushed than the others you’ve done.
I don’t know where you get that men age better. If they take care of themselves that might be the case, but I see a disproportionate number of saggy, pregnant-bellied, poorly-shaven males over the age of 40 than similarly slovenly women (although they are out there).
Looks matter because health matters. I can admire a great makeup artist as that: an artist, but never do I equate that with the physical beauty of a healthy, vibrant body. Naturally skinny people, in turn, can be just as sickly as someone massively overweight if one knows what to look for. It doesn’t even take extreme effort to maintain natural beauty, just diligence and a respect for one’s own life.
Its just the way it is. Men age better. OR I’ll put it like this; We as a society find older Men more sexually attractive than older Women.
You’re right that We live in a society where a man’s social status &wealth make it ” okay” for him to be fat and bald. And in order for a woman to attain the fruits of his wealth she dosent have to be smart, kind, or rich …just “hot”. Because we all know men will put up with a so-called “bitch” as long as he gets to sleep with her….
But my point here is that although people may be lying when they say “looks don’t matter” the old saying that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ still applies. So we can’t assume that just because YOU see a hot guy and an “unprettty” girl that it’s because he has to compensate for not always having been a hot guy. Maybe ..in HIS eye that “unprettty” woman is exactly what HE finds hot
^Cynthia not anonymous
You’re right that We live in a society where a man’s social status &wealth make it ” okay” for him to be fat and bald. <- Pretty much.
Despite your post, I personally don’t go by looks alone because that’s too shallow.
Granted, if I meet a guy and he’s got a fantastic personality and we get along but I am in no way attracted to him physically, well obvious he’ll be friend zoned.
But lets say I, or someone in general meets someone and they don’t particularly find that person attractive. They’re just an eh in that category. After spending time with that person, having conversations, going places with that person, do whatever…it’s almost like that person grows into their face and he/she becomes instantly beautiful and attractive. It wont matter in the end how you thought of that person from the initial meeting and it doesn’t matter whether initially the person was rich, poor, small, or big, now what matters is the fact that by getting to know that person as a friend first, you realize how beautiful he or she has always been from the beginning.
Which I guess was your over all point by the end of your post.
And as the above comment said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I once saw this BEAUTIFUL guy, we went on a few dates but unfortunately he was a complete douche. My friends get a look at him and they never let me live it down. They call him Eve’s Road Kill and whenever I bring up someone I think is attractive they look at me disbelieving because they can’t “trust” my taste because I apparently dated “roadkill”
But doesn’t it suck when you meet someone who you think is crazy sexy, beautiful and that person turns out to be a complete moron or jerk? -_- My thoughts on that, haha..is that they better break as many hearts as they can because they’ll probably look like shit in a few years. *EVIL MANIACAL LAUGH*
-Eve =P
I absolutely agree with you but my main point in the post is that you don’t get to see someone’s personality right away so, what you base your decision is influenced by physicality and social status. You wouldn’t go on a date with a homeless man would you? Exactly, me neither. Unless he is paying. lol
I’m with you on this one. There’s nothing worse than someone who looks real pretty, until they ruin it by opening their mouth.
People who have gotten by solely on their looks will continue to do so until they can’t, and then they’re doomed. Looks matter, but so too does being a stable and passionate person with a full spectrum of thought.
I hate this blog format. I just replied to you, except it posted as its own thread below this one.
Technological improvements on the way quite soon, in time for my travel logs
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Your soul belongs to Satan. You will live a life of torment without the love of Jesus Christ in your heart. Please for your own sake, ponder on this prayer.
“Heavenly Father, I know that I am a sinner and that I deserve to go to hell. I believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins. I do now receive him as my Lord and personal Savior. I promise to serve you to the best of my ability. Please save me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
God be with you NC Shuva.
HEY CHRIS cause NC speaks HIS mind and his truth he should burn in hell lol makes me laugh with all the hypocrisy in this world from “your people ” just cause you dont like what you hear / read or agree to disagree not everything I agree with but if you are against him and how he thinks and what he believes why are you following him ? watch those stones your casting before one comes back at you and smacks you in the head
Says the man using the internet which is an invention and a product of SCIENCE not religion. <3
Looks matter to everyone.It’s just the level at which they matter that is an issue.
nice balance be da key
Biology plays a major role when it comes to attraction. In reality, we only have the illusion of “choice” in the person we’re attracted to – our DNA, immune system, brain chemistry, and various other factors predetermine most of it for us. Evolution has made it so that we find a partner we think is best suited to procreate with and stay together long enough to raise that child through the most crucial stage of development, infancy. This is why so many “serious” relationships disintegrate within 3-4 years. This is why women tend to be attracted to men of a certain status/income. It’s not about how much money he has, it’s about his ability to utilize the resources that he has to provide for them during that fragile time. So today it’s money, way back when it was cattle, etc.
But, I’m getting ahead of myself. First, lets go over a couple of broad characteristics physical or otherwise that men and women find attractive in potential mates and the reasons behind these attractor factors.
Men look for beautiful women, not just for the hell of it, but because beauty indicates a strong and healthy immune system and good genes which suggest a better chance of survival for their offspring. They also look for younger women, not because they’re superficial assholes, but because a younger woman has more child-bearing years left ahead of her than an older one. Evolution instilled this in men because it suggested that the women they chose to bread with were healthy enough to carry and birth their children and that those children would survive.
Women, on the other hand, look for providers and protectors. Back in the day, such men would have been both attractive and resourceful, because back then food was currency and you had to be relatively fit/healthy in order to acquire it. Today, we don’t need to scour the jungle and run long distances to get food, nor do we need to gather tree branches to create shelter, we just need to be able to pay for it. Thus, in order to make money, many men have gotten jobs where their environment keeps them from being at their optimal health and therefore they’re not going to be as physically attractive.
Keep in mind though, these apply to most, but, not all, and there are exceptions to the rule. We are not talking about Janice Joplin who was sexy because of her talent, not because of her looks, and we’re not talking about Trent Reznor who’s obviously a God no matter what he looks like. Just broad strokes.
Basically, what I’m trying to say is, people aren’t as shallow as they seem in picking a mate, weather they choose based on income/social status (the way many women choose men) or based on leg-to-boob ratio (the way many men choose women) because it’s not really up to them whom they are attracted to – it’s up to nature. From what a man smells like to weather or not a woman is ovulating determines how attracted we are to others and how attractive we are to them. The rules of attraction haven’t changed, the environment has.
The Science of Sex Appeal is a great movie dealing with this. Also, check out http://www.scienceofattraction.co.uk/the-experiments .
Excellent post.
thank you so much
Killer post
I’m thinking my biology is imagining what our brain offspring would be like
The entirety of your post, even though it is brilliant says pretty much exactly what I’m saying but in a scientific voice and not a casual one like mine is.
people are as shallow as their social status lets them. How strong willed of a person they are with let them see the beauty within not just the outward physical looks. Their own insecurities most of the times doesn’t let them date “ugly people” but in reality they are ugly to the core . Go figure . Thus said I myself tend to judge more on outside looks more for a trophy then for within . Who am I to judge when I carry my own imperfections but I for my own ego stroke I myself have my “standards” and wont settle for less even if the ends don’t justify the means . Real beauty is finding the imperfections and finding them beautiful
Like I originally said; all of that falling in love with personality thing comes later. If anyone claims they see it right away in a person; well I don’t PUilive them
I have only heard the phrase “looks don’t matter” used in similar context to “you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.” Not in terms of selecting mates, but in terms of selecting other sorts of companions and employees. It’s sound advice that we are not naturally prone to follow. As animals, we tend to mock up a rough evaluation of each person we meet using our crude animal instincts, size them up in terms of physical strength, beauty, mental capacity, and energy. We are often wrong. It takes a conscious effort of will to see the guy with the multicolored mohawk as Nasa material, regardless of what he has accomplished.
But in terms of sexual partners… I who says that? I mean, I might say AROMA matters more than looks, but bother are still important, and its still a superficial judgement and we are just talking about-initial attraction. Not the sort of stuff that makes relationships work in the long term. When I figure that out, I’ll write a book or something.
It’s not about judging really. I for one; don’t want a companion who is not hot. That makes the bar exceptionally high because, I also want great intelligence, character, education, ambition. Yet still, I need to love the way it looks when first see it. It meaning her.
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